You and your husband just made it through the summer taking care of the kids while being separated. For the most part, your co-parenting plan worked. There were a few tense moments and schedule mix-ups, but you feel like things went well overall. Of course, you and your future-ex-husband did not have to spend a lot of time together or have too many issues when it came to the coordination your kids' summer vacation time. However, now that the school year is starting in Birmingham and you moving forward with the divorce process, things are about to change.
Before the separation, you handled the kids' schedules, made sure they did their homework, and attended every parent-teacher conference. Now that you are working and your husband has moved out, it will take more effort to effectively parent the children during the school year. Read further to find out more about some school-related issues you and your spouse should address as soon as possible.
Managing homework assignments
Homework is an almost daily fact of life for school-aged children. How will the two of you divide duties to ensure your kids get their assignments done and turned in on time? Who will be available to help answer questions and guide them through their assignments? Take the time to work out a plan for handling homework. Maybe you are better suited to help with math and science while your husband is a good source for literary work and social studies. Or maybe, you will work with your son while Dad works with your daughter. Find a solution that works for the both you, but more importantly, is beneficial and effective for your children.
After-school sports and other activities
There is no denying it, children have busy schedules. Between school, afternoon football or band practice, volleyball or dance team, they are always on the go. This means that you or your husband has to be available to pick up and drop off the kids and attend events and games. Not only are these activities time consuming, but they are also expensive. Before you agree to let your child participant in an after-school activity, sit down and talk to your spouse about the logistics.
Will the two of you be able to handle the commitment? Can you afford to pay for the necessary equipment, camps, and workshops, and various other events that come along with the activity? How will the activity affect homework and time with each parent?
Handling parent-teacher meetings
If you and your spouse can barely tolerate being in the same room together, those parent-teach meetings may be a bit uncomfortable. Keep in mind that teachers have more or less seen it all. If you need to have separate meetings, the teacher may be able to make an allowance for this. If it is too difficult for the two of you to attend meetings together, then consider dividing the responsibility.
For example, you can go to all your daughter's parent-teacher conferences while he goes to your son's. Regardless of what you decide, the key to avoiding awkward and uncomfortable meetings is to plan ahead. Talk to your ex and devise a plan that will work for both of you while providing the engagement and support your children need.
If you are considering divorce and have children, it is important to have a co-parenting plan in place. While your attorney will be able to help you handle any child custody or visitation issues, it will be up to you and your spouse to make a co-parenting plan work to benefit your children.