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Parenting when you can't stand the other parent

Your child is the most important person in the world to you. Despite that, the person you hate the most is the only other person who loves your child as much as you do. You have a divorce, but that doesn't mean you get to walk away from the person you despise.

To you, your ex is toxic, but to your child, he's the epitome of everything a good father should be. You can't justify trying to remove him from your child's life, even though you can't stand to be around him. What can you do to make this easier on yourself?

From homework to parent-teacher meetings - have a plan

You and your husband just made it through the summer taking care of the kids while being separated. For the most part, your co-parenting plan worked. There were a few tense moments and schedule mix-ups, but you feel like things went well overall. Of course, you and your future-ex-husband did not have to spend a lot of time together or have too many issues when it came to the coordination your kids' summer vacation time. However, now that the school year is starting in Birmingham and you moving forward with the divorce process, things are about to change.

Before the separation, you handled the kids' schedules, made sure they did their homework, and attended every parent-teacher conference. Now that you are working and your husband has moved out, it will take more effort to effectively parent the children during the school year. Read further to find out more about some school-related issues you and your spouse should address as soon as possible.

When divorce shuts Grandma out: How to see your grandkids

There is nothing quite as special as the bond between a grandparent and grandchild. While people often say grandparenting is all the fun with none of the work, the truth is that the love for a grandchild is often deeper, and distinct, from the love for one's child. Some have even described it as love squared.

So what happens when death or divorce suddenly changes your access to your grandchild? If a child is born out of wedlock, can you be assured of seeing the child?

How co-parents can limit conflict during the upcoming school year

It's the time of year when you'll see all sorts of back-to-school sales at almost any department store. Soon enough, students will be starting a new school year.

For parents who are divorced or separated, this can mean big shifts to your regular routines. It's this change in your schedule that can create additional conflict among co-parents.

Co-Parenting Tips For Summer Vacation

For kids, summer vacation is the most exciting time of the year. While no school may mean more fun for them, what about you?

For parents, summer vacation can mean a major change in schedule. Figuring out where the kids will be during the day can be difficult when you have to work. If you are divorced, summer vacation can mean additional adjustments to your custody plan, especially if you want to take a family vacation.

Alabama bill aims to give parents equal footing in custody cases

The long held standard in child custody orders - as many divorced parents know - is to ensure the best interests of the child are met. Typically, this leads to a custody order that allows the child to spend some time with each parent. The time each parent spends with their child, however, does not have to be equal - and often it is not.

For many parents, a standard custody plan means seeing their children every other weekend and maybe once or twice in between. Some Alabama legislators are hoping to change that.

When and how to modify child custody orders

Child custody orders are established based on the needs of the child and circumstances of the parents at that time. As parents know all too well, though, circumstances can change. Child custody orders cannot be modified unless there has been a material change in circumstances. When a life change impacts your ability to uphold your child custody order, or you are concerned for the well-being of your child, it may be time to seek a modification.

Does cheating impact child custody?

Realizing that you have been betrayed by your spouse is devastating. Understandably, many people are unable to move past an extramarital affair and choose to seek divorce.

As you start to work through your divorce, however, you may be wondering whether the reason for your split - the extramarital affair - will have any impact on your child custody.

Understanding 'best interests of the child' in child custody

In all child custody matters, Alabama courts consider the "best interests of the child" above all else. While this phrase is used frequently, it may not be clear to you what, exactly, it means.

Although most parents want what is best for their child, they do not always agree on what that is. In today's post, we will explain what factors the courts consider when determining whether a child custody agreement supports the best interests of the child or children involved.


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